In today’s world, the narratives we see and hear shape how we feel about ourselves and the world around us. One of the most pervasive wounds many people carry is the feeling of abandonment or being unwanted. Unfortunately, media often perpetuates this wound by amplifying stereotypes and false ideals that leave us feeling disconnected, overlooked, and devalued.
From an early age, media shapes our understanding of belonging, love, and acceptance. However, when these narratives exclude diverse identities, body types, and experiences, they send a harmful message. For example, the relentless glorification of heteronormative, monogamous relationships can alienate those in queer or polyamorous partnerships. Similarly, unattainable beauty standards perpetuate inequality and shame for anyone who doesn’t fit within those narrow definitions.
These messages hit particularly hard for individuals who have experienced abandonment in their personal lives. Media’s exclusionary narratives can trigger deep-seated fears of being unworthy, unlovable, or incapable of achieving the “perfect” relationship or family. This cycle of doubt and insecurity is exhausting and self-perpetuating, often reinforcing the very wounds it originates from.
Breaking free from these narratives begins with intentional healing. A powerful first step is developing media literacy—learning to critically evaluate the content we consume and recognizing its impact on our self-perception. By understanding how media shapes our views, we can reclaim our stories and embrace our authentic, imperfect, and beautiful selves. This also means seeking out diverse media that uplifts a broad range of human experiences, allowing us to see ourselves and others more clearly and compassionately.
Healing the abandonment wound requires community and connection. Through therapy and collective support, we can rewrite our personal stories and build resilience. Refusing to accept harmful media standards and embracing narratives that affirm our worth are acts of liberation. By taking these steps, we move closer to wholeness, creating a world where everyone’s story is valued and celebrated.
